God's Ideal Woman by Clifford Lewis
God’s Ideal Woman by Clifford Lewis
INTRODUCTION
According to Mrs.
John R. Rice, this book addresses the answers to the questions and problems
that perplex women of every age.
While reading the book “God’s Ideal Woman,” I
learned a great deal about who to marry, how to handle myself, and my role as a
woman, most especially to understand how special I am to God, so settling for
less is not an option. This book is very good to read. Each chapter, every word
has an impact on me as a woman who sometimes feels so low, but by the grace of
God, He always reminds me how blessed, loved, and precious I am because I have
Him.
BODY
Anyway,
I want to share with all of you what I learned while reading this book. The
book “God’s Ideal Woman” reminded the reader that “Don’t be a silly girl!” a
silly girl according to Clifford can be frivolous, selfish, thoughtless,
ungrateful, proud, intemperate, impure, unkind, disrespectful, stubborn,
tactless, willful, disobedient, untrustworthy, without worthy ambitions,
careless about her friends, and devoid of high standards. When I read those characteristics
thought of myself and I realized I have some of those characteristics, I prayed
to God to take them away from me because I, too, don’t want to be a silly girl.
I want to reap good fruits, so I believe I need to sow good seeds. A lot of
times, women are swayed by their emotions. After all, we are a weaker vessel;
they will decide according to what they feel, and that’s not right. We
shouldn’t be selfish in every decision we make; we need to seek godly counsel from
the people who are in authority, and most especially from God, because God’s
will is still the safest place in this darkened world. Satan wants to give us
the best, the things that we want, and he will give you all just to get you. That’s
why, for me, don’t choose the best choice; instead, choose the right choice! A
lot of times, the best choice is not the right choice because sometimes the
best choice lies from the father of lies! In the ministry, relationships are
very important because ministry is people. We need to show care and love for
everyone, which is hard for me to do before, but by the grace of God, little by
little, starting from my 1st year in Bible College, I understand now
that people are created by God uniquely, that’s why everyone is different.
Relationships need acceptance and understanding to love and care for each
other.
I formulate a formula for building a
relationship
Relationship: Acceptance +
Understanding = Love + Care
I do not know, but I believe the majority of
women want to get married, and I am one of those, but some women are designed
to be an old maid, not because they are not good enough, but because God chose
them and they are already enough. Clifford wrote that it’s worse to have an
unfortunate marriage. It is far better to be a bachelor girl or an unclaimed
blessing than you live in pain because of a wrong husband. I have a big respect
for those who didn’t get married because they are strong enough to face
everything alone, but I believe it all because the Lord is with them. They give
their all to God, they work for the Lord, limitless!
I love it when Clifford wrote in his book
about whom to marry. Indeed, a God-guided relationship is the most blessed
you’ll have in your lifetime. Marriage, after all, is honorable, and it is a
good blessing from the LORD!
While reading Chapter
3 of “God’s Ideal Woman,” I remember the words that my Pastor always told me
when he was still alive, that I need to pray for my future husband, even though
I am still young, I was still in High School at that time. He told me that I
shouldn’t marry very early but wait for the one God gives me, because the man
that comes from the Lord is the right one, and I’m going to be the happiest!
In
Chapter 3, Clifford wrote that women shouldn’t marry just for money because
silver and gold cannot buy happiness. It is true because many rich people are
divorced, and they are not happy in their marriages. I know a lot of married couples,
even though they don’t have money, but their relationship is still so good,
sweet, and very lovely. Don’t allow peer pressure butt in not because people
around are getting married you will also get married right away, no, marriage
supposedly must be planned very well and both of you must prepared well to make
your own family. Women do not choose a very jealous and lazy man; you’re not
going to be happy for sure! Jealousy is not good because it shows distrust;
trust is very important in a good marriage. Lazy is a very problematic attitude;
marriage is about helping each other. A lazy man won’t know the word “help,”
and that you’ll be a literal maid! Never marry an unbeliever, be not unequally yoked
together with unbelievers! You will never understand each other one of these
days because you belong to God, while he does not!
You marry someone you love because when you
love the man, I’m very sure you can easily do your role as a wife. Choose a
very considerate man, will accept the way you are and will understand you. In choosing a
lifemate, you must involve God. I won’t forget what my mentor, Ma’am Ruth
Jesalva, told me; As a godly woman, it is already given that when you choose a
man, he must be faithful. It is better to choose a lifetime partner who will
accept you the way God made you. If the man can’t accept you the way you are,
he will control you and you’ll going to pretend for a lifetime. Pretending
can’t make you happy. This book taught me that if you marry, choose someone you
love because when you love the person you marry, you’ll do things for their well-being
willingly, and you’ll be happy when you see them happy. The good traits of a
man that Clifford Lewis wrote in this book are being considerate, congenial,
and especially being a Christian man. If your husband is considerate,
congenial, and saved, I believe he will always be sensitive to his actions and
words because he doesn’t want you to be hurt, and he will always seek the will
of God in your family. “The word home always stirs our memories.” To be in a
Christian Home is indeed a very blessed and exceedingly precious thing. According to
Clifford, five things help to make a home such as true love, stick-together
families, family altar, tactful authority, and consistent Christian living. I
read a passage from another book that talks about true love. It says that true
love is more than a sensation or a feeling. True love is a genuine desire for
the well-being of another. It means you also want to carry the other’s burden.
If he’s sad, you are also sad, and if he’s happy, you are happy. It always
starts with love; if there’s love, you’ll be a stick-together family no matter
what circumstances you face. God is still the best home maker. When God is the
center of your home, it makes the hardships softer. Clifford also talks about
what breaks the home, and it is SIN. There are five things that satan is using
to break homes and hearts, such as selfishness, intemperance, disloyalty,
misunderstanding, and jealousy. All five can make you anxious and bitter; we
should be very careful about these things. We shouldn’t allow the devil to win.
Ephesians 1:3-8 reminds us that we are blessed, loved, accepted, adopted,
redeemed, chosen, and forgiven. This book also talks about the responsibility
of a mother. The love of a mother is indeed the most comforting in this world.
I didn’t grow up with my mother by my side, but I agree with what Clifford said
because when my mom went back home last 2015, she showed me her all-out support
and love that I believe I don’t deserve. After all, I am not a very sweet
daughter to her, unlike my father.
When
I experienced hard work in Bible College, I thought of my mom, the hardships
she faced each day without receiving much love from her only daughter. I cried
hard because of that realization when I was in my first year, that’s why I went
home, even just for 3 days and 3
nights, to show and give her the love that she deserves.
I love my mom because she first loved me just
like Christ. We love Him because He first loved us.
CONCLUSION
Now let me tell you who or what is God’s Ideal
Woman, she must be virtuous, trustworthy, energetic, physically fit,
economical, unselfish, prepared, honorable, prudent, lovable, and God-fearing.
She must seek to do right and to please the Almighty. She must be very
understanding and not moody, she must be encouraging and help her husband to be
victorious in all things, most especially from any temptations. People will
always talk, she must choose to stay still when she hears about her husband
from others, and she must choose her husband’s side and must protect him from
any malice. She must think about the well-being of her husband before anything
else. The most important thing is to be optimistic because a woman is a home’s
atmosphere maker!
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